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Homily | 14th Sunday in Ordinary Time 2024

We encounter in our readings today Paul’s struggle with his own weaknesses and the rejection of Jesus in His hometown. These passages invite us to reflect on our call as modern-day prophets in an unbelieving world and the need to counter familiarity and prejudice as we live out our Christian faith. In his Letter to the Corinthians, Paul speaks of his “thorn in the flesh,” a weakness that keeps him humble. He learns that God’s grace is sufficient and that His power is made perfect in weakness. Paul’s acceptance of his limitations and reliance on God’s grace serves as a profound lesson and reminder for us as well, for it is in our weaknesses that God’s strength shines through. In the passage from Mark’s Gospel, we witness Jesus returning to His hometown, and yet, His teachings are met with skepticism and disbelief. The people struggle to overcome their preconceived notions about Jesus, the carpenter’s son. Familiar with His humble origins, they simply cannot see beyond their preconceived notions. Their lack of faith hinders them from experiencing the fullness of His power and this lack prevents them from witnessing the fullness of God’s grace in their midst.. This passage reminds us that even Jesus faced skepticism and disbelief, particularly from those who knew Him best; and worse, Jesus himself was rejected. But Jesus, in His infinite wisdom, challenges us to see beyond the familiar and recognize the divine in the ordinary. In the words of St. Ignatius, to find God in all things, even in the mundane and the ordinary. Like Jesus and Paul, we are also called to be prophets in our own time. This means speaking the truth of the Gospel, even when it is uncomfortable or unpopular; especially when it is uncomfortable and unpopular. It means standing firm in our faith, despite the challenges and rejections we may face. The world today, much like Nazareth, often struggles with familiarity and prejudice, making it difficult to recognize the divine in the ordinary. As Christians, we must actively work to counter these attitudes. We must see each person as a child of God, worthy of love and respect, regardless of their background or circumstances. This requires humility and openness, recognizing that we too can be blinded by our prejudices. We need to allow God’s grace to transform our hearts and minds, enabling us to see others through His eyes. As disciples of Christ, we are all called to be exemplars in overcoming preconceived notions and selfish pride. If we are humble and honest enough to admit it, our own pride and preconceived notions can act as barriers, preventing us from fully embracing God’s plan for our lives. Like the people in Jesus’ hometown, we may be tempted to limit the possibilities of grace by confining God to our preconceived expectations. But God’s wisdom always surpasses our understanding, and His grace can transform the ordinary into the extraordinary. And so we draw strength and inspiration from today’s sacred scriptures. Like Paul, let us embrace our weaknesses, knowing and believing that God’s grace is sufficient. Like Jesus, let us persist in our mission, in our respective vocations, even in the face of rejection. With the help and Grace of God, may we strive towards greater humility, dedication, and openness to the unexpected, allowing God’s infinite love to transform our hearts and work miracles in our lives. May we be instruments of God’s unfathomable mercy, reaching out to those in need with open hearts and minds. May we become modern-day prophets, boldly proclaiming the Gospel and breaking down barriers of familiarity and prejudice. In doing so, we allow God’s power to work through us, bringing His love and truth to an unbelieving world.   Homily delivered by Fr. Mamert Mañus, SJ  14th Sunday in Ordinary Time  2024 (Cycle B (Mark 6:1-6) Cenacle Retreat House

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Loving Through Miracles | 13th Sunday in Ordinary Time

There are only three instances in the Gospels where Jesus raised the dead back to life. Our Gospel today is one among the three – the raising of the daughter of Jairus, a synagogue official. This account occurs in the three synoptic Gospels – in Matthew, Mark and Luke. The second one is the raising of the widow’s son at Nain, in the Gospel of Luke. The third one is the raising of Lazarus, the close friend of Jesus, in the Gospel of John. Of the different miracles that Jesus performed his power to bring the dead back to life set him apart from other so-called God-sent prophets and ministers. For many who witnessed these miracles, it confirmed to them his divinity, that He was indeed the Son of God, the Messiah. In their minds, no ordinary human person could do such a thing. This was something supernatural. Jesus was exceptional. There was no one like Him. He was indeed God. Everyone was left amazed and captivated. Suddenly, they couldn’t get enough of him. Easily, these miracles could have been Christ’s answer to those who doubted his person and capability – to his detractors, haters and bashers. If Christ were like the social media content creators of our time, this could easily boost his popularity, engagement and influence – instant likes, hearts, shares and subscribes. These miracles would definitely be viral. He could have monetized these miracles, maximizing the benefit he could draw from them. This, of course, was the farthest thing in his mind. He did not do such a thing. In fact, he did the opposite. In the end of the Gospel, Jesus issued a gag order to the people there: No one should know, not a word about this. He did not want publicity. He did not want popularity. He did not want people’s admiration and veneration. It definitely was not for the clout, not for the likes or hearts, not to increase his followers. What are they for then for our Lord? What’s his motivation? What made him do those wonders? The truth is the miracles he performed were always rooted in his desire to attend to the needs of those who were seeking comfort and consolation. They were fruits of his mercy, compassion and love for people. He wanted to assure them that God was not blind and deaf to their pain and suffering. He wanted to make them experience intimately God’s grace. It was never about proving himself, being acknowledged and worshipped as God. For our Lord, the great wonders he had done and continues to do at the present time are not intended to show off his divinity, but to profoundly express his total solidarity with people, with us – embracing fully human life. He is one with us in our grief, sorrow, distress and agony. He knows we need him the most during our moments of vulnerability and weakness. Just like in the case of Jairus, helpless and desperate, not knowing how to save his daughter at the point of death, Christ meets us and attends to our needs. Especially during moments when there seems nothing more that can be done, when things are impossible already, our Lord steps in and saves the day for us. He is there because he is the Lord of life whose love for us is everlasting. His desire is for life to flourish in us, for us to live life to the fullest, with meaning and purpose. As affirmed in our First Reading today from the Book of Wisdom: “God did not make death, nor does he rejoice in the destruction of the living. For he fashioned all things that they might have being; and the creatures of the world are wholesome, and there is not a destructive drug among them nor any domain of the netherworld on earth, for justice is undying.” Brothers and sisters, in which particular area of our lives, in what particular vulnerability, in what specific concern do we need God most in our life at the present time? Can we allow him to attend to us, to work in us, to do his wonder in our lives? Can we allow him to bring back to life parts of our selves that have become dead? May we put our complete faith and trust in our Lord who never abandons his people so that as our Psalm today proclaim, we can likewise declare: “I will praise you Lord, for you have rescued me.” Homily delivered by Fr. Erwin “Bok” Arandia, SJ 13th Sunday in Ordinary Time 2024 Cenacle Retreat House

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Sleeveless | Jn 15:9-17

      A very nice lady walked up to me after Mass one time. She said she finally went to this church where people traditionally go before traveling abroad. She’d heard so much about it in the past. A very important journey was coming up, so she finally decided to pilgrimage from Parañaque, eastwards, & hear Mass at said church. When it was her turn to receive communion, the lay minister looked at her…& told her to step aside. “Bawal ang sleeveless dito.” “Fr. Arnel, look at this dress. This was what I wore.” Her dress was very classy. All of her chest & back were covered. The hem fell just at her knees. Wala nga lang manggas. “That’s the first & the last time I’m going to that church, Father.”             Jesus was a devout Jew. He knew all the rules. As young as 12, he was talking about the Torah w/ rabbis, one time, at the Temple, where he lost all sense of time, & went 2 days missing! The boy Jesus loved the Torah that much that young! But when he grew up, he started giving off the vibe that he was violating the rules left & right, 613 to be exact, pursuant to the major 10. Breached the official physical distance from the sick, disabled, lepers, loose women, tax collectors, possessed, the dead (& the sleeveless). Worse, he was seen touching them, engaging them, engaging their demons (!). What undefiled, God-fearing Jew would do all that w/ people beyond the pale & past salvation? So into the Law once-upon-a-time, so out of it now, what happened?             Well, the people that the rules commanded to step aside became Jesus’ friends. That was his mission, in the best way he knew the Father: to make these people his friends. No one has greater love, he said, than to offer one’s life for one’s friends. Did Jesus love friends more than Law? No. Because on the same breath, he said, “If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments & remain in his love.” He kept his Father’s commandments. He didn’t toss them out to put his own law in, no. In what looked like brazen law-breaking, Jesus was restoring the true spirit behind God’s Law, the original purpose for the Law, which was twofold: love God & love neighbor. The clearest sign of both? Laying your life down for them.             My students are tired of hearing me say that I feel very blessed to have been raised in a faith that loves a person, not just follow a book of laws; a kind, brave, loving, real person. We have a book, of course. But Scriptures aren’t just about rules, the what’s. They’re about Jesus of Nazareth, the Who. Through this real flesh-&-blood who, God revealed beyond reasonable doubt who he is, what he wants, & what he’s really like. If we still ever wonder who God is, what God wants, what God’s like, we’ve had the answer all this time. Jesus is who God is, what God wants, & what God is like, 100 percent, God’s complete mirror image, chip off the old block, the fullest revelation of the Father. Sure, we can argue, disagree, debate over the correct interpretation of Scriptures & the rules of our religion. But our final criterion is & must be a Person. And all our arguments & debates aside, our final guide question should be: what did Jesus do? Once we answer that question that should put an end to our doctrinal & moral altercations, we will realize that the highest value Jesus upheld was not who’s right about the law, but who in fact still loved. Love for people was always Jesus’ highest value. I dare say, love for people more than rules, principles, & personal projects.             When we find ourselves so attached to the what’s of our religion, we have got to check in case we’re already detached from the Who this religion is precisely all about. Often the pitfall of the lawful who slowly turn heartless: wanting always to be official, they turn officious. Will die Christian, Catholic, but will never be inconvenienced for the poor. Gunning passionately for salvation in heaven, but turning piously savage on earth.             Sana hindi mangyari sa atin ang nangyayari sa Israel at Hamas. Two contenders claiming God is on their side, proof-texted by books of laws & words of prophets. But the proof-text is a Person, some part of me sometimes wants to scream. And he ain’t your imam or your rabbi, or even Muhammad or Moses, w/ all due respect. The proof-text is Jesus of Nazareth…who happens to come from your neck of the woods, kalahi nyo’t kababayan ninyo!             In many wars today, global or personal, visible or invisible, we’re really willing to die for hate & w/ hatred. We often go wrong by hate, esp. when we think we’re doing it for love. That’s just absurd. Jesus assures us that we can rarely go wrong by love. But real love, per our Proof-text, is when we take the side of people & when we’re willing to lay down our lives for them, more than for ideology or orthodoxy. Jesus took a side; the side esp. of those who were told to step aside. And they became his friends: the helpless, the homeless, the joyless, penniless, right-less, & why not, the sleeveless!   Homily delivered by Fr. Arnel Aquino, SJ 6th Sunday of Easter 2024 Cenacle Retreat House

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Divine Mercy Sunday Homily

An image I love, A song I hate, and my favorite Poem about God’s Mercy : Things that have helped me pray on Divine Mercy: Part 1: The Image I Love (from the film “Contact” starring Jodie Foster, Mathew Mcconaughey circa 1997, Sci-Fi, Science and Religion, Belief and unbelief) In the film, Jodie foster plays an astronomer, Dr. Ellie Arroway who heads a team of scientists / and together they are the first to decipher radio signals from intelligent beings from another galaxy. Together, she and her team begin to plan the first expedition to meet this alien race, but while she is the most qualified and deserving of scientists, she is barred from the mission by politicians who disqualify her on the basis of her being an unbeliever. Their thinking was that in sending a human being who would represent the human race to meet another sentient race for the first time, how could they send someone who didn’t believe in God when 75% of humanity did? If you haven’t seen it, it’s worth watching. But before we digress any further let me get to my favorite image which comes at the end of the movie. After her long and arduous struggles through the vastness of space, time and interiority, Dr. Arroway stares long past the desert horizon into a star-laden sunset and takes from the ground a bit of sand, and then gazes upon these particles of sand that sparkle in the palm of her hand. So beautifully, the image suggests that each planet is but like a grain of sand held tenderly in God’s hand. And the image speaks to me of how tiny we are in the scheme of things. How tiny we are in this scheme of things, and yet…this God, this force behind all the powers of the heavens and the earth, now alive in the person of the Risen Lord, is so patient with his disciples who are so slow to learn. Apparition after apparition he must teach them and encourage them little by little. Meeting them where they are in their fear, and leading them slowly to freedom and a deeper sense of mission. How tiny we are in this scheme of things, and yet this God to whom all the galaxies are but sand particles upon God’s hand, obliges Thomas in the pettiness of his pagtatampo. This Jesus who gave his all on the way of the cross and on the cross, has no qualms giving in to the demands of his emotional disciples. How tiny we are in the scheme of things, and yet our Lord makes Godself so available and so present to us who come to God in our day to day. With our needs and hopes and deepest desirings that God bothers to listen to and know so intimately and respond to. The enormity of God’s love set against our very smallness is Divine mercy. That is why this simple image of sand upon one’s hand is so powerful to me. Chapter 2: The song I came to hate : FATHER MERCY Of course there’s a funny story behind why I came to hate this beautiful song. And it is from my 30-day retreat at the SHN which ended just last March 7. Why did I come to hate it then? Kasi naman, yung choir po ng mga seminarista nung 2nd week of the exercises, EVERYDAY kinakanta yung FATHER MERCY! One day, FATHER MERCY, was the entrance song, another day it was the communion song, and other days it was the FINAL song. (Laughter) There I was, already long past praying on my sins and God’s mercy, already enjoying the second week which was mostly chill time with the Lord, hearing this song over and over.So I refused  in silent protest, to sing  “Father Mercy, Father Hear me, why have you gone from me? Broken, humbled, waiting hopeful…Father return to me.” But Why? Why was I refusing to sing this? Because I thought, it had been several days since I already felt so blessed by a good general confession and felt “freed” from my own personal sins and was in such a joyful state of the second week, so it seemed not to make sense to me anymore. BUT, after the 4th consecutive day that the choir sang this song, the 4th consecutive day that I was annoyed, I whispered to God at the end of the mass – baka naman po may sinasabi kayo sa akin ano po? And so prayed for openness of heart. After that, believe it or not… without getting into the gory details of my prayer periods, in several meditations that followed, my openness brought sin and God’s mercy back into the picture in a most unexpected and profoundly meaningful way. I began to see that even the context of the Call of the King was precisely a sinful world, and that Jesus’ public ministry was mercy in action. “Mercy” meant Jesus was returning love and forgiveness for all the sin and hurtfulness of humankind.  And I began to realize how selfish and narrow-minded I was in the past to be thinking only about me and my own sinfulness when praying “Lord Have Mercy”. Ang yabang ko to think that it made no more sense to me to say “Lord Have Mercy” at times when I already felt forgiven … when in fact the meaning and depth of any prayer beseeching the Lord’s mercy lies in our acknowledgement that we are part of a whole history of sin, and of a humanity that has been so deeply hurtful throughout all time.  Wars, man-made disasters, greed-induced famines, slavery,  human trafficking, genocide. These are not only of the past, but are on-going. And these are not only their sins, but ours too, all of humanity’s. And if not for God’s mercy, we might long all have been wiped out of existence by our own wrongdoings. Other than our smallness, the enormity of our

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Easter Vigil Homily 2024

Grace: I beg for the grace of being able to enter into the joy and consolation of Jesus as he savors the victory of his risen life. (Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius, 221) In a forum on the situation in Myanmar last November, a local development worker shared with us the story of a Myanmar mother who lost her son in a military bombing of their village. The worker showed a poignant picture of the mother walking behind her dead son’s body during a funeral entourage. The mother was desperately looking for a place to bury her son. They had to keep moving from one village to another due to the relentless bombing of villages and the refusal of some villages to accept the burial of someone not from their village due to customary practices. Thankfully, one village finally accepted her son’s burial. We were deeply shocked by the situation. The local aid worker went on to narrate that for development workers like her, the situation was getting riskier due to the increasing military harassment and threats to their lives. United Nations workers were leaving due to the grave dangers in fear for their lives. When asked why she remained and continued to work despite the dangers, she soberly said, “If I left who would take care of her people?” She went on to say that it was her faith that she desperately held on to give her courage and hope amid all the dangers and seeming hopelessness of the situation. These stories from Myanmar and other areas of conflict and war in Ukraine, Russia, Gaza, Israel, Sudan, and Haiti continue to haunt us who long to see peace and human progress in our deeply troubled world. We long to make a difference in addressing the longstanding and intractable problems of poverty and deprivation, forced migration, climate change, impunity of dictators, human trafficking, and many more. For people in the margins like the Myanmar mother and development workers, where will their hope lie? For the young people of Myanmar who are now being compulsorily conscripted into the military to fight their people, where will they find hope? There are no easy answers. As I reflected on the situation of Myanmar and similar situations of seeming hopelessness, I recalled a beautiful article by James Hanvey on Holy Saturday entitled, “Waiting to Cross Over.” He says that Holy Saturday is not a day in-between between Good Friday and Easter Sunday without any value of its own. It is a day that resists all of our attempts to understand it, but nonetheless, we must ‘live in the realities of Holy Saturday’. In the article, he says, “Only in the silence of Holy Saturday can we see the true terror of the cross. It exposes the ultimate source of the secular gods’ power – the god of this world, the god of despair; the god who can crucify God… If we have the courage to place our ear to the silence of Holy Saturday we will hear a savage laughter. It is the gods of this world laughing at our hope for a Saviour.” He goes on to say, “If we can stay in this strange and desolate place waiting, our spiritual eyes become accustomed to this other dimension. We will begin to discern that it has brought us to a way that only Christ has opened up. In the very waiting and living in our own powerlessness, we have already faced the terror of the instruments, the torture, the primal fear that laid its claim upon us. If only we can stay there waiting we will begin to understand that this silence and emptiness is not God’s powerlessness, (not) his death – but his Sabbath: it is an end; it is a completion and it is also a new beginning. It is truly a ‘holy’ Saturday, not an interlude but a hallowing of all of our times of waiting. Without it we would never see into the depths of Good Friday or adjust our understanding to grasp the magnitude and meaning of Easter morning.” We, all of us, are mostly in the time of Holy Saturday in our lives, in the here and not yet of our salvation. The work of salvation has been completed in the definitive act of Jesus’ death and resurrection. And yet, we know that our salvation in Jesus Christ is still being worked out in our lives as we commit ourselves to live the death and resurrection of Jesus in our daily lives. Let me end by sharing with you a quote from Pope Francis in his opening address to the Jesuits of the General Congregation 36 when he told them: ask persistently for consolation. He says, “In the Exercises, Ignatius asks his companions to contemplate “the task of consolation” as something specific to the Resurrected Christ. (Spiritual Exercises, 224) It is the specific task of the Society to console the Christian faithful and to help them in their discernment so that the enemy of human nature does not distract us from joy: the joy of evangelizing, the joy of the family, the joy of the Church, the joy of creation… Let us never be robbed of that joy, neither through discouragement when faced with the great measure of evil in the world and misunderstandings among those who intend to do good, nor let it be replaced with vain joys that are easily bought and sold in any shop.” As we face our world badly marred by the dark forces of sin, hatred, and division, we are invited at Easter to beg for the grace to enter into the joy and consolation of the Risen Jesus. We are reminded that it is not a joy we can obtain through sheer human will or effort. It is a gift that can only come when we allow God to make real his Son’s passion and death in our lives through walking with and committing ourselves to our suffering sisters

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Purging Pride (The Devil’s Heist)

When I hang on to my ego like I hang for life Devil clinging to me closely cutting like a knife In my effort to preserve myself I lose the fight Spiraling me downwards to a never ending night Before I know it the depression hits. It pulls me away From the ability to hope it’ll be a brighter day Anxiety and fear join me on the road Medicating all the manic highs and the lows I have suffered through the bruises of this back-breaking work Didn’t rest so I got on the brink of going berserk Poured from an empty cup, nothing was left Went through the weaving of the warp and the weft Hail Mary, full of grace Take me out if this deep, dark place Lamenting at the illusion that I cannot rest Forgetting to trust that God’s plan is the best I had to be exhausted to be devoid of the choice To do nothing but rely on God’s will and His voice He said,”you’re getting in your own way by clinging too hard” Just let go and surrender. Hand me your cards So let go I did, albeit reluctantly And I resigned to the depression incessantly But then I tried my hardest to pause and to pray And little by little I could see the light at the end of the day What prevents me from believing in God’s love for me Is the pride and egoistic spirituality That this world forces on you and infects us with sin Surrendering to Him’s the only pathway to win So I remember I’m an athlete and a soldier for Christ And must be disciplined to fight against the devil’s heist To sow fear and shame and rob our hearts of peace A docile, happy rested soul should be what God sees Surrender to God Rid yourself of the ego Surrender to God Rest in Him (written by one of the retreatants during the Holy Triduum Retreat 28-31 March 2024)

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Exposed | Mark 1:29-39

“They brought to him all who were ill or possessed by demons.” The Jews didn’t see those two as separate, you know. If you were ill at that time, disabled, or behaviorally aberrant, a demon was possessing you & God was punishing you at the same time, pure & simple. The more serious your affliction, the graver your sin. It’s absurd, even funny, to assume that these days. Imagine, kung trinangkaso ka, o sinisikmura, o inatake sa puso, ay, dinedemonyo ka kasi may kasalanan kang ginawa. But in Israel, people took that for granted.             Must’ve been a sight to behold, sisters & brothers: the whole town gathered at the door, the Gospel says, at evening after sunset; Jesus laying hands upon head after head; Jesus whispering into ear after ear, “Come out of this man, this poor child, this mother;” muted gasps of surprise & joy, watered by tears.             Sisters & brothers, did Jesus himself believe that illness & disability were sin & demon-driven? Well, since he was a very devout Jew, he must’ve. At the back of his head, he must’ve seen the afflicted as sinners, sure. But that was why he knew that people came for healing because they wanted to be forgiven. And Jesus honored that. There was no illness so severe Jesus couldn’t heal it. Therefore, there was no sin so grave, he refused to forgive it. How could he refuse? If the blind weren’t led in or the paralyzed carried over, they limped, hobbled, or crawled to him, after dark! They were desperate for God’s forgiveness. Well, it was cooler at night, for sure. But I bet, the darkness was also a friendly shroud from public attention & shame. May sakit ka na nga, kahihiyan ka pa sa lipunan. Sa imagination ko tuloy, parang naging confessional box ‘yung bahay kung saan naro’n si Hesus. People came in the dark to expose their demons to the Light…of the World, & exposing them, to be rid of them. Even if only to Jesus & to their fellow sinners in what was to be the last darkest night of their lives because tomorrow would be a brand new day.             Speaking of exposing demons, a little challenge I often face as a confessor is when some penitents end up exposing not their own “demons,” but their demon of a mother-in-law, their demon of a neighbor, ang demonyong ex-husband, etc. I’m sure they’re not initially aware of it. The sacrament of reconciliation, after all, should be safe space for unburdening. But I’d had to verrrry gently remind them, that since this was their confession (I mean, “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned,”) it’s our demons we want exposed & dealt with. And it’s very funny because after saying that, & asking, “So, what sins do we wish to confess today po?” Some end up saying, “Umm, wala naman ako masyadong kasalanan, Father!”             Speaking of not exposing their own demons, the 5 CEO’s of social media were grilled by the US Senate 3 days ago. Did you see some clips? They were made to answer for online negligence that bled into runaway sextortion, drug dealing, sexual predation, peddling of unrealistic beauty standards which triggered depression, eating disorders, & most tragically, suicide…of youth. Perfect examples of illness & disabilities caused by sin, if I may say so. Despite their own employees sounding alarms, the CEOs put them on mute. Zuckerberg, for one, refused recommendations to hire more employees who could code stricter guardrails & algorithms for young users. And when a senator asked him, “Have you compensated any of the victims? Don’t you think they deserve compensation for what your platform has done? Are you willing to set up a fund from your own money, you’re a billionaire, to compensate these people?” Zuckerberg? Silence…that screamed no. His apology a few moments later was too little, too late, & limp. Another senator asked the CEOs one by one if they would support the Earn It Act which incriminates tech companies complicit in child sex abuse & exploitation. It was unbelievable. They all answered with a spin. ‘Yun bang sagot-pulitiko. Smooth-spoken, silver-tongued, sounding like a yes. But it was really, “No.” The image in my head was a stone wall painted with a delightful nature scene.             The platforms that enlighten our minds, through the gadgets that light up our faces—they also traffic darkness. We, grown-ups, have often fallen for the dark that dresses up as light. Can you imagine the youth, how much more readily, more gladly they can be deceived? Incidentally, how long does it take our kids to look away from their gadgets when we want their attention? If they don’t, do we insist that they do? Or do we just say, “Oh, I’ll leave them alone. At least they’re not noisy, making a mess, strangling each other, so I can work in peace & quiet”? In the peace & quiet of our homes where we & our kids no longer talk much, whom are we listening to? Who’s got our full & unflinching attention? See, sisters & brothers, whether in Senate halls, billionaire’s suites, or just our humble homes, it’s really true: evil’s enduring modus operandi is deception. That’s what makes us sin in ways that make us sick. But when darkness falls, we already know where to go. We already know whom to seek. Doesn’t matter if we limp over, hobble, or crawl. We just go. For there is no illness he cannot heal, no emptiness he cannot nourish, no sin he will not forgive. We just have to look away from our gadgets & go.   Homily delivered by Fr. Arnel Aquino, SJ 5th Sunday in Ordinary Time Cenacle Retreat House

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The story of Christmas opens with history, an actual census ordered by Caesar Augustus, during the time when Quirinius was governor of Syria. It closes with a tale of an angel telling shepherds of the nightwatch to go see for themselves “an infant wrapped in swaddling clothes and lying in a manger.” The story of tonight is bookended by the truth of history and the truth of heaven. It starts with people moving to be enrolled because of a political decision and ends with the heavenly host rejoicing over God’s decision to enroll himself into our history. Quirinius we will not dispute. But when we hear of heavenlies talking at night, proclaiming, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests”, we wonder if Christmas is just some made up story we tell each other to distract or numb ourselves from the heartbreak of this world. And yet, the evangelist Luke, the story teller, takes pains to bookend the Christmas story with accounts from history and from something that is more than just fantasy. The wood of the manger foreshadows the wood of the cross. The birth in a stable at the margins of the city anticipates the death on a hill outside the walls. The swaddling cloths that wrap the infant prefigure the strips of burial linen in the empty tomb. The light of the Nativity is not without the darkness of the Passion. Mary’s tears are of happiness and sorrow. The Child has her eyes. Her tears are his as well. On this night, the stain of her blood on the earth is the same stain from the blood of the Lamb of God, the very stain which marks us for deliverance. Soon after, this family will be on the run, living as refugees in fear, fleeing to Egypt to escape the murderous wrath of a delusional king. So much for fantasy, this story. We are here tonight not just because of the inertia of tradition. We gather not out of obligation. We are here because we believe the story. We are here because this Child is true. And we believe his light to be the one light that shines in this “land of gloom”, the only light that outlasts the darkness outside. We do not deny that the darkness disheartens us. We confess how lost and afraid we are. We’ve had our share of delusional kings and their murderous greed in this country. We have witnessed how hatred and bigotry continue to shed the blood of the innocent. We have been distressed by the brazen distortion of truth and justice by those in power. The callousness terrifies us. Despite all this however, we will not let fear and desolation take hold. We will still celebrate this night of Christmas because we know it is amid terrifying darkness that God comes to us. And so before the wood of the manger and cross, we will dare to believe again in him who stays with us in the dark. We will dare to believe in him who is true. We will love again because only love can endure the night. Like the Christmas story, our own life stories are bookended by the truth of history and the truth of heaven. All throughout our lives, there will be enrollments to keep us moving from place to place. And angels as well, telling us not to be afraid, urging us to please go see for ourselves this infant wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger. There will be tears of happiness and sorrow, swaddling cloths of tenderness and loss, moments of gladness and silence. At the close of our stories, perhaps we will be caroled too by some heavenlies proclaiming glory to God in the highest, and peace to all on whom his love rests. Wishful thinking and fantasy? Not really. We know the story. And we believe God’s story.   Homily delivered by Fr.  Jose Ramon (Jett) T. Villarin SJ Christmas Eve Mass Cenacle Retreat House 24 December 2023

General, Homilies, Soul Food

Narcissists | Matthew 23:1-12

Psychologists can now distinguish 8 different kinds of narcissists, can you imagine? Eight! Let’s talk about 4 that are most familiar to us. First, the grandiose narcissists. Grandiose narcissists are your garden variety blow-hard, mayabang, mahangin. Their self-references are tireless & tiresome. They constantly trumpet their accomplishments & namedrop a lot. “CEO this, rich man that, socialite couple this invited me, sought me for advice, asked me for help,” all that. They brag about trips abroad, showcase their latest designer purchases. And if you talk about yours, you find yourself “politely” one-upped. Grandiose narcissists, the imeldifics, are arrogant, flamboyant, & hopelessly competitive. Second, malignant narcissists. One time, a student begrudged me the grade I gave him in theology. He was best in Philosophy daw back in college seminary in the province, & getting a B in my theology course was insulting. For the next 3 years, he became legendary for rarely missing a chance to bad-mouth me to fellow seminarians. He’d even dissuade them from enrolling in the courses I teach, can you imagine? Malignant narcissists are everything that grandiose narcissists are, but with value-added: venom. They vilify whoever they perceive undervalues them. So, they hatch rumors, lie, manipulate information; anything to defame the enemy & quash the competition. To help their cause, they cozy up to the authorities with favors & flattery. Third, covert narcissists. A little harder to detect because they self-report as victims. They bemoan that their bosses/superiors don’t trust them, peers undervalue them. They’re always sidelined, passed over, ignored. But listen a bit further & the real sound byte comes along: “I would’ve been the better choice. I’m the best one who could’ve done the job. I’m smarter & more experienced than anyone here. May favoritism kasi dito, so, I’m grossly unappreciated. But don’t ever come asking me for help when things go bad.” Very strangely, covert narcissists play lament & persecution as the musical score for their self-aggrandizement. Fourth, communal narcissists: the altruistic, charitable type. They support orphanages, feeding programs, relief work. They raise funds for seminaries & churches. If you really think about it, they’re not any more helpful or more compassionate than the next person. But they want to be seen & heard that way. Communal narcissists project an image of kindness, self-sacrifice, & love for the poor. But at their core, it’s really about attention-seeking, impression management. At their worst, they push their weight around & manipulate decision makers to achieve their own aims. But since their clarion call is service, no one blows the whistle on their vanity. In today’s Gospel, Jesus calls out the Pharisees & scribes for their narcissism. “They perform all their works to be seen (pakitang tao lang daw). They widen their phylacteries & lengthen their tassels (para mapansin na tapat sila sa batas ng Diyos). They love places of honor at banquets (mga senyoritong pinagsisilbihan), seats of honor in synagogues, greetings in marketplaces, & being called ‘Rabbi’” (donor, celebrity, titulado). There’s also a certain malignancy to them because “they preach but not practice (and) tie up heavy burdens & lay them on people’s shoulders, but they will not lift a finger to help them.” ‘Yun talaga ang delikado: religious narcissism; because we can hide behind a good & holy cause: God! But it feels exhilarating because we have a captive audience: the community. We have a stage: the altar. We have a theater: the church. We have shoulder-to-shoulder friends: kura paroko, bishop, cardinal. And look! Look at the people we’ve helped, people who thank us & need us & pray for us: the poor, the scholars, the ill, the priests, nuns, seminarians! Don’t get me wrong, religious narcissists are highly accomplished. We cannot diminish their contributions. They’re pretty apparent, beneficial, & we keep turning to them in our hour of need. But the self-importance, the backdoor manipulation, the self-imposition & self-promotion. It all comes down to me, myself, & I, “but all for God & the salvation of my soul.” Which brings us to the probably reason why narcissists are the way they are. Unless there are minions, they feel terribly alone. Unless there are spectators, they feel invisible. Unless there’s an audience, they feel unheard; worse, unheard of. Unless they prove themselves, they feel worthless. In other words, their locus of self-esteem is entirely external. Be visible & loud. Let it all be public & larger than life. Otherwise, their innermost self, gapes with unbearable, unbelievable emptiness. You know, sisters & brothers, Jesus might’ve been able to reform the hierarchs much sooner & more efficiently were he born to a priestly family & became a Temple authority, or if he became a rabbi, Sadducee, Pharisee himself. ‘Yun bang taong may sinasabi sa lipunan at simbahan. But Jesus was born an ordinary Jew, to a poor family who schooled & raised him to goodness & love of God. Artisan like his dad, he built & fixed things for more than half his life. In his final 3 years, he built & fixed people. He was more credible than all the rabbis, wiser than all the prophets, mightier than all the kings put together. But never once do we hear him self-refer as rabbi, prophet, or even son of God. Instead, what did Jesus call himself, sisters & brothers? Son of man. In bible-speak, what’s that mean: son of man? A person. A regular, typical, ordinary, simple person. A guy. Guy from Nazareth. A guy whose simplicity, humility, & poverty, & whose enormous power & great love put the narcissists to shame. Homily delivered by Fr. Arnel Aquino, SJ 31st Sunday in Ordinary Time Cenacle Retreat House 4 November 2023 (Anticipated Sunday Mass)

General, Homilies, Soul Food

30th Sunday in Ordinary Time

“God created human beings to praise, reverence and serve God and by doing this, to save their souls.” Anyone who has made the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius will recognize that right away as the preliminary prayer of the Saint or what he calls the first principle and foundation. I have to admit though that when I first encountered that, I was taken aback and misunderstood it. I reacted negatively. I thought, this God of Ignatius was so needful of attention. He created human beings just so they can praise, worship and serve him like slaves. Isn’t he being too narcissistic, too egoistic and too self-referential. Of course, now I know better. As they say, I am older and wiser. I remember all this, my initial incursions into the spiritual exercises, because of the Gospel we’ve read today. Jesus tells us that the greatest commandment is to love God with everything we’ve got. And the second one is to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Like many, I have had no problem with the second one. As a social activist in my youth, I have always advocated for love of neighbor in terms of social justice, basic services for the poor, human rights, etc. And as for the first one, the greatest commandment, I have always seen it from the viewpoint of the second one. You love God whom you do not see in your neighbor whom you see. But a Jesuit early on corrected me. No. You have to take on God separately. Yes, you find him in his creatures but he is more than your neighbor and creation. You seek him out in prayer, in silence, in the Bible, in the sacraments, in his daily engagements with you. And so, as Jesus tells us today, you have to love God, as he is, for who he is, in himself. That is settled. God is an entity unto himself, and must be reckoned with, as it were, in his own terms. But still I struggle with the order of priority. Why is loving him the greatest of all commandments. In other words, why should he go first? Why should we love him first? I have a friend. He got married to a beautiful and loving wife and they had three children. I had never seen him so happy, so contented with his life. And he would say that literally. He had a perfect wife, a perfect life. Admittedly though, God was not part of that life, except for the routinary Sunday mass. He was never spiritual or religious, but he was nonetheless a very kind and generous person. But one day, his wife got terribly sick, and in just a few months, passed away. My friend understandably went through depression; but when I spoke with him after some time, he said, only when his wife had passed away that he discovered God, that life was this enormous mystery bigger than himself, his wife, his family, and at the center of all of that is God. He thought life ended when he lost his wife; but it continued, life, love continued. Because God remains, he said. What my friend discovered or realized is what philosophers have been telling us about God. God is the very ground of everything. He is being itself, life itself, beauty itself, love itself. And creatures like us only participate in God’s very life. And so to understand ourselves, our world, we must deal with him, with mystery. And that is the reason why he comes first. When Jesus tells us to love God first, it sounds a command, an order, a summons. In fact, as many of us know as we get older, he is merely sharing with us the deep truth about our lives. We love God first, because he is at the center, the core of our very lives, our very selves, our very existence. He is alpha and omega. He is not one other being competing for our love, but Being itself, life itself, love itself.   Homily delivered by Fr. Emmanuel “Nono” Alfonso, SJ 30th Sunday in Ordinary Time 29 October 2023 Cenacle Retreat House

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